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15 ways to support me around the 1 year anniversary of my dad's passing

Yes, this Saturday (March 21st) will be the 1 year anniversary of my dad's passing. It simultaneously feels impossible that it's only been a year and that a year has passed already. In preparation for both the day and the days after, here are some ways you can help support me (if you have the time, energy, and/or resources to do so).

  1. Meet up with me in person (I believe on Saturday I am getting brunch with at least one friend and dinner with several)
  2. Initiate conversation with me via text, message, or call (but please don't call out of the blue--this stressed me out for a reason I can't identify last time I asked for support)
  3. Provide me with food (gift card, cooking, reimbursing for takeout, going out with me, etc.)
  4. Help me with some chores
  5. Watch reality TV with me or just let me rant about it to you when I need a distraction
  6. Hug me
  7. Send me mail
  8. Give me a safe space to cry
  9. Be understanding when I'm not reaching out as much or am a bit distant even when we're in person
  10. Brush and/or braid my hair
  11. Scratch and/or massage my back
  12. Listen to me talk about my dad (the good, the bad, and the ugly)
  13. Look through photos of my dad with me
  14. Keep reaching out even as time goes on (I have a fear that people are going to forget)
  15. If you want to get me a thing, get in touch! I have a variety of things I want from small and silly games to larger furniture (if you want it to be a surprise--flowers and scented candles are always welcome)

(Prompt by me)

Photo by Hannah Busing on Unsplash


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