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15 things I've learned about myself from previous relationships

I've only had one previous relationship so I'm including previous dates as well.

  1. I need things to move slowly--not just physically. I've had guys while texting be like "you could be my girlfriend" and um, my dude(?), we have not even met in person yet
  2. I'm slow to develop deep feelings
  3. I know I've developed feelings when I actually miss someone
  4. I can get a little weirded out when someone's feelings outpace my own
  5. Being in a relationship is a very serious thing to me (but I'm in no rush to get there)
  6. Small gestures are best for me when I'm not in a relationship. Big gestures outside of a relationship freak me out
  7. Similar sense of humor is something that's very important to me
  8. I do not stand for submarining
  9. I need more confidence
  10. I'm fine with mutual ghosting
  11. I like compliments and can get bummed if I've put in an effort and receive no compliments
  12. I need to prep and psych myself up for dates sometimes
  13. I like first dates to be something simple
  14. I'm not much for PDA
  15. My enjoyment of dating really varies

(Prompt provided by Amelia Sacco)

"Couple holding hands" by freestocks.org


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