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Dear Dad (~1 year out)

Dear Dad, I have honestly been avoiding this post. I have had the empty draft post up for a few hours and keep finding other things to do. And even after writing those two sentence, I found yet more things to turn my attention away. I'm watching Top Chef  right now as I type this. We used to watch that together. While clearing out your storage unit, I found your colorful folders of recipes and found the eggs benedict recipe from the show we tried once (I think it was Fabio's). I remember we poached the eggs, but they were far from pretty. I also remember that I successfully made hollandaise sauce, but then you over mixed it and it broke. We added butter to it though and it turned out okay. I guess I don't know what to say (maybe that's why I've been avoiding this post). It's been almost a year since you passed. I spoke to you via a WhatsApp video call the day before. It was brief, but you told me you loved me and I said the same. Mom visited you and is the one w...
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15 ways to support me around the 1 year anniversary of my dad's passing

Yes, this Saturday (March 21st) will be the 1 year anniversary of my dad's passing. It simultaneously feels impossible that it's only been a year and that a year has passed already. In preparation for both the day and the days after, here are some ways you can help support me (if you have the time, energy, and/or resources to do so). Meet up with me in person (I believe on Saturday I am getting brunch with at least one friend and dinner with several) Initiate conversation with me via text, message, or call (but please don't call out of the blue--this stressed me out for a reason I can't identify last time I asked for support) Provide me with food (gift card, cooking, reimbursing for takeout, going out with me, etc.) Help me with some chores Watch reality TV with me or just let me rant about it to you when I need a distraction Hug me Send me mail Give me a safe space to cry Be understanding when I'm not reaching out as much or am a bit distant even when we're in ...

Thoughts on 90 Day Fiancé: The Single Life season 5, episode 6

Time for some infuriating interactions.  Vanya, you shouldn't have to persuade someone to want to be with you Vanya, I think it's being on camera that is making Tony sweat Tony does not seem like he has a track record of being upfront about his relationships Okay, I admittedly was multitasking, but I missed what made the conversation between Gino and Natalie take a turn Julia, you are being weird (that said, SOMEONE has to talk) So, I guess Pedro and Sophie are official now? Hey, Colt, I don't care if you're not doing well as YOUR ACTIONS CAUSED THIS Cortney, let this trash person go Okay, Tony, if your past relationship was serious, it is weird that you took Vanya to Key West and that Vanya (your allegedly close friend) did not know of this woman Vanya...do not be official with this man (at least not yet) Okay, I swear I've heard this "Love is a Risk" or whatever it's called song on quite a few reality dating shows Pedro and Sophie are cute right now,...

15 thoughts I had during the 2026 Oscars

So, if you don't know, the 98th annual Academy Awards were this past Sunday. Here are some random thoughts I had while watching.  Maybe I should've watched more of the red carpet Autumn Durald Arkapaw is a very deserving winner for Best Cinematography in Sinners , but like...it was really at the 98th Academy Awards that a woman won that category for the first time? I think adding an award for Best Casting is a great call Pretty sure they missed Jonathan Joss and James Van Der Beek in the "In Memoriam" section (and by Googling just now, I was reminded that they also forgot Eric Dane, Malcolm-Jamal Warner, and even more) Disappointed that One Battle After Another  got more wins than Sinners Notably, despite that fact, I am still not tempted to see One Battle After Another (or Frankenstein  which did receive 3 awards) I do want to see KPop Demon Hunters and Sentimental Value , however Great to see Misty Copeland! I appreciate these political moments, but I do think ther...

Thoughts on 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days season 8, episode 14

Time for some vital meetings. I hope Elise feels better Elise changing at the beach is so funny Elise, I think Joshua could be a great vacation bae, but I don't see him being committed long term Lisa, you have been lying to Daniel for a long time Lisa, it's all well and good to love people for their souls, but you do only seem like Daniel cause he's hot Also, Lisa, your sexuality definitely does not make you evil, but it is wild that you thought lying to this man who clearly does not like queer people of any ilk would work out for ya Rick, it's wild that you think Trisha will have a quickie with you right now (especially while the crew is there) I cannot believe Forrest and Sheena have done 0 immigration research about getting a visa until now So, I'm not saying that it's fair that Forrest cannot count his disability payments towards proving he could support Sheena (or that his disability payments are insufficient for supporting himself and Sheena, etc. etc.), b...

15 predictions for the 2026 Oscars

So, if you don't know, the 98th annual Academy Awards are tonight! Here are some random predictions.  Sinners  will win a lot An award winner is going to get their speech cut off prematurely because they're making a political point Someone is going to stumble (literally) on the red carpet, on stage, or on their way up to the stage There will be a different embarrassing gaff as well Conan is going to do a fine job of being a host (not spectacular job, mind you, but this is because I don't recall ever seeing a spectacular host of these awards) Someone vital is going to be missing from the "In Memoriam" segement The  KPop Demon Hunters 's song, "Golden," will win its category However, the performance of "I Lied to You" from Sinners  will be the most powerful Someone will have just a spectacularly ugly outfit on the red carpet I will be inspired to watch at least one of the nominees I haven't seen yet It will feel weird to watch because the...

Thoughts on RuPaul's Drag Race season 18, episode 11

Time for the Alyssa Edwards Roast! Oop folks still want Discord gone I do think Discord could've been in the top for Snatch Game Oop people are sick of Jane winning Darlene...:Nancy Kerrigan was the one who was attacked...not the attacker Lol Nini brought up double elimination I feel like a fragrance ad is a big ask for a mini challenge Lol Discord's girly voice is her Pope voice So now Ru knows Alyssa's name I do find Darlene so charming Did Michelle say "toast jokes"? Oop so Myki put Discord first Juicy, I did get what you meant, but I did not find it super funny I love how much Darlene cracks herself up Oop Nini is being a tad too mean Myki...I am worried for you Aw Jane is so kind Ru's look is SO FUN Alyssa is STUNNING So some of Discord's jokes worked for me, but she definitely read form her cards too much and, as Jane pointed out, some did not land Why did Myki put Juicy after Jane...was it sabotage? Juicy is struggling in her own right, but it's...