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15 ways to support me on my parental journey

I posted yesterday and in August, 2023 about starting my parental journey. If you're wondering how you can support me, here are some ideas I have at the moment (though these may change and also don't feel pressured to do any of these things).

  1. Check in via text or DM so I can respond at my leisure (but please don't be insulted if I take a long time to respond)
  2. Help with arranging food for me (I know that when I get overwhelmed, I often have really awful eating habits)
  3. Offer to help with apartment chores (I may turn you down, but the offer will mean a lot)
  4. Walk Hoban (I realize only some people can do this, but the relief of lightening the responsibility of Hoban will likely be welcome)
  5. Be understanding if I have to cancel plans (I hope to still be somewhat social during this time, but I cannot guarantee how I'm going to feel)
  6. Drive me to appointments (I have the retrieval itself covered, but I have other appointments that will happen leading up to it so if you have the time, it would be appreciated)
  7. Share your experiences with me if you've been though something similar (again, I realize this only applies to some people, but I'd appreciate it so I don't feel alone)
  8. Send me encouragement when I'm doing my injections (this could be a text, a phone call while I do it, or, hey, wanna sleep over and physically be there when I do it? I won't say no)
  9. Tell yourself that if I lash out or anything like it that it's about me, not you (I hope I don't lash out, but I know when I get really emotional it can be a knee-jerk response so please know that it's not about you)
  10. Send me mail (I love getting mail and it will make me feel special)
  11. Spend time with me just watching TV or something lowkey (I feel like I may get mopey and company with lowkey activities will be welcome)
  12. Give me a back massage (it's definitely possible I won't be up for this, but I feel like it could feel pretty great)
  13. Scratch my head (honestly this is just one of the best things in the world for me)
  14. Remind me why I'm doing this (I hope I'll always keep this at the forefront, but I may start to forget)
  15. Brainstorm additional ideas with me (I'm sure there are more!)

(Prompt by me)

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